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New Traditions

28 Monday Nov 2016

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Christmas spirit, family, friends, traditions

Although I’m happy living here in the land of sunshine, there are times I want to go home.  North. Where my lifelong friends are.  Where my life used to be.  Too bad it’s true when they say you can’t go home again.  I have no home there anymore and that makes me a little sad.  I have new friends here and a new life, but honestly? I have periods where I miss my old life.  The one where my loved ones were alive and healthy.  The one where we were all together for the holidays and it was noisy, crowded,  full of laughter and jam packed with love.  I find myself having a tough time feeling the magic of Christmas.  Sand is not snow, the trees are palm instead of pine, and Jack Frost is definitely not nipping noses.  That stinging sensation is called sunburn.

Despite the touch of melancholy, I know I’m extremely lucky.  I’m blessed with the greatest husband, two of my three siblings live close enough that we can visit often and do, and friends who, for one reason or another, are here missing their loved ones too.  So on Christmas day we’ll gather ’round the table laden with food made with loving hands, raise our glass, and toast to new traditions.  It’ll be noisy, crowded, full of laughter and jam packed with love. The tree won’t be real but the joy it provides will be.

The first time I came here during the holidays, I saw a sign that I thought was oh so wrong, but now I get it.  It said,

“Yule, y’all”

Wherever you are, “May your days be merry and bright, and may all your Christmases be white.”

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Winning and Losing

10 Thursday Nov 2016

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Coping, Losing, Maturity, Young adults

Do you remember not so long ago when they stopped keeping scores at student athletic events? The experts claimed that it was demoralizing when a team didn’t win and were therefore losers. They said it was important that every child feel important. That they were worthy for their contribution to the game. That we build their egos so that they’ll grow up to be strong, confident, competent adults. Well here we are and I’m calling bullshit. The Wall Street Journal and Fox News both reported what’s happening at our colleges and universities and let me tell you, it isn’t pretty.   Here’s what’s going on with these “strong, confident, competent adults”:

  • Students at Cornell University gathered for a “cry-in” while school staff provided tissues and hot chocolate.
  • Tufts University offered arts and crafts as therapy.
  • University of Kansas is offering therapy dogs for comfort every Wednesday.
  • Students at the University of Michigan spent Wednesday sprawled around the student affairs office playing with Play-Doh and coloring books as they sought comfort and distraction.

These pansy-ass little wimps have not learned how to lose.  They’ve not learned to be gracious, not just at losing but at anything.  Society has done nothing but handicap these young people.  They’ve never been taught how to cope.  How to lose.  That life is just completely unfair at times.  They’ve never learned the sweet bliss of achieving a goal that they’ve worked for after a failure.   You can’t learn to walk without falling on your bum, ride a bike unless you fall a few times (by the way, that really hurts), ice skate without taking a tumble (again, lots of pain).  Maybe it’s time to stop coddling them, look them straight in the eye, and tell them to grow up and get over it.

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